I was wondering if anyone knows why we as a society fall into this thing called DATING. It seems like a tragedy waiting to happen, and people just keep doing it. Why don't we pull away from it? Dating...it seems so shallow and uncomfortalbe. I don't look forward to doing it, I think that I will avoid it at all cost.
It's inevitable that you will end up breaking up or getting married, and I really don't want to do either at this moment. So I guess the best option is to stay out of the scene. Why don't we put more importance on developing relationships. Maybe that would spare many of us from ultimate divorce. Anyway here I am again talking about things I really don't know much about. So Peace Out!
Where were you on this date 5 years ago?
I was in AZ. Leaving my apartment for school when my neighbor came out and told Marishah and I what had happened. We did not believe him so he brought us into his apartment and we stood there and watched the second building get hit. (We did not have TV in our Apartment) We went to our first class, we were called out halfway through which was a good thing because nobody could concentrate anyway. We met in the gym and prayed, the entire school (all 250 of us).
It's inevitable that you will end up breaking up or getting married, and I really don't want to do either at this moment. So I guess the best option is to stay out of the scene. Why don't we put more importance on developing relationships. Maybe that would spare many of us from ultimate divorce. Anyway here I am again talking about things I really don't know much about. So Peace Out!
Where were you on this date 5 years ago?
I was in AZ. Leaving my apartment for school when my neighbor came out and told Marishah and I what had happened. We did not believe him so he brought us into his apartment and we stood there and watched the second building get hit. (We did not have TV in our Apartment) We went to our first class, we were called out halfway through which was a good thing because nobody could concentrate anyway. We met in the gym and prayed, the entire school (all 250 of us).
posted by Joy | 8:47 AM
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Okay, Joy, here are my two cents. I think the bigger problem in our society is the fact that people spend so much of their time looking for a spouse. We are so restless at times. Many people alienate their friends, who have been with them longer and had more devotion to them, for some person they just met. Many people reach an age where they think it is now appropriate to "date" and so they just find the best option. It bears a striking resemblance to shopping. You go out, scan the merchandise, pick out the ones you like, try them on, and keep the ones that fit. The problem with me was, I usually buy stuff and then hate it two weeks later. I didn't want to do that with relationships. Also, the cost is much higher in dating. You waste a lot of time and you usually put your heart and emotions on the line. So here is the long and short of it: I don't care if you date the person you plan on marrying, but don't waste your time "dating" or looking for a husband. Just ask God to make him "run into you". Now, that is my two cents and I better hear something back from you. It was nice to see you at that wonderful conference.
Well I can make it personal instead of just whatever it was in the first one. I hate dating. It seems like the guys just want to "kiss" me. Ok it's not just that it seems that way. When I don't kiss them I never hear from them again. Nice guys, real nice. So I decided not to date. I was content with not dating. Happy actually. When I meet this guy and he wants to date me. What the.... I thought, no. But then prayed about it, together even and came to the conclusion that we should date. SO we did for almost 2 months... again I say what the... and why did I have to put my heart in it? But you have to put your heart in it, um. SO now I'm back to trying to be content, and recognizing that maybe it is not the plan to get married. THough I do have until I'm 56 to do so. Ok was the comment up to par? Way personal for the web, huh. I would much rather have good friends than have to not be friends when you break up. Because things are to weird. Nick back at ya.
it was definately not 6:51 am when I wrote that. It's 8:45 am.
How nice to get a comment back on your own blog, Joy. Anyway, I like to hear it. I don't think it is really possible not to put your heart into it if you date someone. Yet, that is one of the down sides of dating as you already mentioned. You know how I felt about it in high school. My views haven't changed all that much, but I am more open minded for those people who think dating is the thing to do. In my opinion, the most ideal situation is one where two friends recognize the existence of greater feelings, pray about it, and decide whether God wants them to get married or not. Dating sets up such a false pretense. I hate it.
I think that the friends "recognizing and praying about it" is a one time thing. I think the chances of that are 2 to all the people in history. I feel blessed to know those two people. It gave me hope that that was possilbe, but really not probable. Don't get me wrong, it is an ideal situation. Everyone would love for that to be how things go down. I mean who wouldn''t love to skip all the time and energy of dating? Thanks so much for your thoughts on the subject.
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